Wednesday, November 17, 2004

The Mental Mom

No makeup, walking around in pajamas a 1pm, yelling "no, don't do that" 24 times a day, taxi-ing children from one event to another, the ultimate maid, and we call her MOM. Why is that the only image most people have of the stay-at-home mom? As a recent indocrinee to this prestigious group, I am amazed at the various women I have been meeting who have CHOSEN to remain home with their children.
One mom I know, who has an 11 month highly active baby boy, has chosen to remain home instead of actively working with her husband on private jets. He, the pilot, and she, the flight attendant, they recognize their child's need for constant parenting. They are working hard to adapt their lives to this new need. I know entrepreneurs who run a plumbing business while caring for their 4 children. There are moms who are former accountants, and business people. I, the temporarily retired pastor, am in a crowd of highly intelligent and active women, who have CHOSEN to slow down for the sake of their children.
We know children are a precious gift from God. We did not choose to bring them into the world to have someone else bring them up. Yet we know our various abilities in our other chosen fields may be compromised due to this multi-year focus.
Movies try to make us look like something interchangeable like buying a new focet for the sink. The whole "wife swapping" thing is HIGHLY offensive to those of us who truly care about the upbringing of our children. No matter what amount of money, it is not worth the potential scars on my child for even one week of a substitute.
Only someone in Hollywood who either doesn't have children, doesn't have a wife, or doesn't understand the value of either would develop such a hideous show.
Mom may not be a rocket scientist at this moment, but she most certainly is developing the rocket scientists of the future. No one will teach their child more than the conscientious mom who CHOOSES to stay at home for the sake of her children.

My daughters are RACHEL (she typed her own name) and Bethany.

Tuesday, November 16, 2004

Touching Home

There are always items to put in the news when you live in a state as large and active as ours. I've seen mention of the who want to make it legal for an immigrant to run for president. Sorry Arnie, not a good plan. We live in an age when those who hate us around the world are willing to invest longterm toward our destruction. Nothing personal Mr. Governor, you're not the only immigrant on the block.
Today, I also read of a group who wants to make sure the cross stays on the Los Angeles County seal. There is also another group trying to ensure our voter approved definition of marriage stands strong.
All of these are viable and important stories, but I cannot do anything, short of giving money (which we don't have that much of anyway), to affect how these stories progress. Eventually, something will or will not come to a vote and then I can make a difference. But until that time comes, the news that affects this California Family, is more closer to home.

COLD SEASON IS HERE! How do I know? Hmmm, whole fam coughing and sniffling. I went to the store to check the various medications one can consume. The shelves where getting bare. Definitely a high traffic area. It reminded me of the store toy shelves the day after Christmas.

Well, as was our plan, we have stayed home to recover and try not to infect others. Quite a difficult thing, I must say. I long to leave the house.
We opted to not attend church on Sunday, after all, there are many children in our two daughter's groups who would ultimately get sick from our girls. I love to worship the Lord in the community of Church. But, we had to stand tough. This week we have a small group that meets in various houses. I have pretty much decided we will not be attending because the girls and I are still coughing, though not quite as runny in the nose. It is frustrating, because I enjoy the community time, but this is what we should do. I wonder if other families are practicing restraint or not.